A woman telephoned our law firm the other day to ask one of the starkest questions we've ever heard: “So, my boss texted me a dick pic last night. What do I do?”
It's an infuriating fact of life: women who want nothing more than to have a good career and earn a good living confront some ugly behavior by men. Sometimes that behavior is outright illegal; sometimes it is merely disgusting. In either case, it can be helpful to have the advice of an employment lawyer.
So, if your boss emails you a picture of a penis, or if he texts you a selfie of himself in underwear, or if sends you a link to porn, what should you do?
First – Save the message. You don't have to look at it again, just save it somewhere that it can't be deleted. For example, if he sends you a picture can only be viewed from your work computer, take a picture of it on your personal phone. The photo may be repulsive, but it is important evidence. And the first thing you can do to stand up for yourself and protect yourself is preserve that evidence.
Second – Give yourself some time to think. Do you like your job, and want to stay? Or would you prefer to negotiate a severance and move on with your career elsewhere? Do you want your boss to be fired, or do you want to be able to work with him the future, and move on from this stupid incident? Do you prefer to handle the situation yourself, or do you want someone else to be your adviser and advocate?
Third – As the saying goes, "First plan your work, then work your plan." If you want to leave your job and get a severance, you might want to call an employment lawyer. If you want to stay at your job, but have your boss disciplined, you might want to report the incident internally. If you want to handle it privately, you may want to message your boss directly.
But no matter what, you absolutely do not have to take that sort of nonsense from your boss. If your boss is harassing you with dick pics or naked selfies or porn, you can contact an employment lawyer and fight back. Call or e-mail us any time. We are here to help.